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Are you tired of the cheesy flirting tips you read in the checkout line at the grocery store? Well, here are some tips that come from experience and science.
1. Be funny. Laughter resets the attention span. Did you botch your approach? Was it awkward? You know what? If you can get her to laugh after that, all will be forgiven. Don’t be a clown, though. Be playful. And don’t have fun at her expense. Don’t be mean-spirited. Have fun with her. Let her in on the joke.
2. Set things up to appear spontaneous. Spontaneity is great. But sometimes it’s difficult to think of things on the spur of the moment. And you might get tired of waiting for things to happen that match the lines you have ready. So why not make things happen that will allow you to flirt? Example: make it look like you’re having to stop to tie your shoe right in front of a seated woman. Then say “now don’t get excited . . . I’m not proposing [smile]”. I’m sure you can think of other ways to set things up to appear spontaneous.
3. Be confident. Don’t “act” confident. Just be confident. How do you do that? Well, get some interests other than women. Achieve something. Don’t “neeeeeed” her to like you. Other than that, being confident is basically just being comfortable in a woman’s presence.
4. Thumbs forward. What? How is this going to help you know how to flirt? OK, this is a little strange perhaps, but have you ever seen a guy with his shoulders rolled forward, and the back of his hands facing forward when he walks? That is a “beta” male posture. Check yourself on this. Make sure when you walk your arms swing naturally, and your thumbs point forward, so your hands are parallel with your body. Seriously, if you’re doing this wrong, you have no idea how much this disqualifies you from the start.
5. Set an authority frame. Don’t let her take on the role of your teacher. Girls will do this if you let them. Try to have things you can teach them. Teach them anything — a tongue twister, the answer to a riddle, how to remember a list of numbers, whatever. Flirting will go much better if you establish yourself as the authority in the situation. And I’m not talking about taking a chauvanistic tone here. I’m just saying, be the one with the most to offer in the interaction.
6. Show enthusiasm. Practice this at home. Read the newspaper and just try to make even the boring lines sound way cool. Then transfer that enthusiasm to the things you’re saying when you’re flirting with a girl.
Flirting is very important. It’s one of the most fun things in all of life if you know how to flirt well. Keep working on it, and take every chance you have to learn how to do it well.
