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Today’s world looks like a bad one for relationships. It seems like everywhere you look, couples that were once so close and happy are fragmenting and going their separate ways. Every couple has their own reasons for breaking up, but there are 6 in particular that usually have something to do with it, and you can help to keep your relationship from going the way of theirs by taking these 6 problems into consideration.

1) Unfaithfulness is a supreme destroyer of relationships…nothing really wounds a person so much as when his/her partner isn’t happy enough at home that he/she decides to go looking for what’s missing in other places. Cheating on your lover is probably the coldest, most hurtful thing you can do to a person and usually results in nigh-unfixable breakups…so the best way to deal with the problem is to never have it in the first place.

2) I know it sounds a little corny, but everybody has feelings and emotions, and when they’re not cared for properly it can really make that person feel unappreciated and like his/her partner doesn’t care. Even if the person knows in his/her mind that’s not true, it can still feel that way…and that can lead to some serious relationship problems. Don’t let your lover feel that way, always make sure that he/she feels as loved as he/she is.

3) Everybody knows that no relationship goes on for very long without the occasional fight…but it’s important to not get too fired up in these conflicts. A bad temper and refusal to calm down and listen is the absolute of all the WRONG ways to handle fights. Take things with as level a head as you can muster, and try to address real problems rather than petty squabbles and gripes. Make your fights productive, not destructive.

4) I know it’s been glorified as one of the most hilarious “unpleasant situations” by TV and movies, but being stuck in a relationship where your partner is constantly looking over your shoulder and demanding to know every minute detail of what’s going on at all times is an emotionally draining tax on the lover’s soul. As much as your boyfriend or girlfriend may love you, acting this way will cause him/her to not be able to stand you. If you can’t trust anyone, you’re going to be alone…so try to loosen up on the reins.

5) Lack of spontanaeity and fun can be as deadly to a relationship as any other problem, but in my opinion it’s the most tragic of all the reasons a couple could break up. No relationship should be allowed to dissolve due to boredom and lack of interest…you two people love each other, so it’s a horrible shame to think that you could separate simply from lack of “fun.” Don’t freak out and become clingy, but make time for each other and do things you both really enjoy. Keep the relationship alive by feeding it good times and warm feelings.

6) Annoying habits in small numbers can be almost endearing, but when they start to take over it can be a serious problem. Usually just having a bad habit of biting your nails or tapping your foot won’t end a relationship, but when these things are a blatant constant and in larger numbers than just two or three, they can add a lot of stress that can make normally minor problems impact your partner a lot more. Everyone has a few bad habits, but in the interest of peacekeeping it’s a good idea to try to ease up on the things that really drive your partner crazy.

This list doesn’t contain every little relationship problem from the beginning of time up till now, but it covers most of the basics that can cause trouble with your partner and yourself. All of this stuff is avoidable, and most of it is fixable, so even if you’re currently in a rocky time there’s still some hope for getting things back on track!